Saturday, June 20, 2009
meditations
Sunday, May 3, 2009
Discoveries
I’ve been composing this letter in my head for a while, and thought it was overdue. But now that I sit down to write it, I realize that its timing is right for me.
I need more from you. Not getting on my knees and begging for you to play with me has been a colossal effort and its own kind of torture for several reasons. I wasn’t sure how you would take it. I wasn’t sure if I would be asking too much, or at the wrong time, or what I would really be asking for from you. I wasn’t sure how that much of a break in my pride would affect me, and I wasn’t ready to beg if it was only going to get me uncertain results.
I’ve learned to better manage my submissive tendencies. I stayed out of a submissive mindset deliberately and succeeded, to be sure that I could do that when I needed to - whether that was with you, other people, or just out and about in life.
Thursday, October 30, 2008
Two Things
Monday, October 6, 2008
distracted
I lack self discipline. I’ve been letting things run around my head for a little while now and felt I wanted to write them down in some form or another. It was kind of hard to put them here even though it shouldn’t have been and it’s what I said I would do.
I should also know better than to try to do other things when I’ve got something weighing on my mind. I should have taken the time this morning to sit and write this out instead of buried in my bed sleeping when I wasn’t tired.
*sigh* for all that I’m ready to write this down; the words still don’t want to come. I’m not sure what I want to address at the moment. I think I’ll start with Friday.
At this point, I’ve thought about what that kind of transition would be like for too long. I built up expectations. I wasn’t let down. But my experiences and my expectations didn’t match. I was thinking too much to even begin to allow for the natural connection that we usually pick up. I need to take it a lot slower. Every part of it needs to be slower for me, at least while we’re beginning. I need time to put my concerns and fears and worries and everything else away in order to be totally present in the moment. If I’m not completely present I feel disconnected and therefore unloved. It’s not true, but it’s how I feel.
I also need some specific things from you afterwards. I need you to wait with the questions. I need that afterglow moment to be preserved for a little while longer in most cases.
I think I’ve figured out what causes some of the melancholy I occasionally feel. There are times when we are so connected, and I am so open, that I get a little lost. I feel too vulnerable and exposed and I want nothing more than to run away to hide in my bed, all alone, in the dark and quiet. It scares me how open and vulnerable I can be with you. Granted I’ve never regretted a moment of that openness or vulnerability, and many wonderful things have come from it, but it’s still a scary place to be. I think you can understand that.
I also didn’t really reach subspace. I guess that might be part of a slow transition, but that was a bit of a let down. I don’t think it was anything on your part, I think I was too nervous and concerned with what I was doing.
While I don’t want questions about what was good or not good right away, I do like to talk. It forces me back into my head and the transition into normalcy is easier.
I lied. Sex hasn’t been that good the last few days. I may have orgasmed but it just wasn’t the same and something was missing. We dropped off on the foreplay and I think that has a lot to do with it. I think you’re going to be really upset with me for not saying anything sooner. It was wonderful in that I got to feel close to you and be near to you for a few days running, which is uncommon. But it wasn’t as intensely pleasurable and it usually is.
I’m not so sure what was so pressing about all of that. But I needed to say it.
Sunday, October 5, 2008
Beginnings
Even though I know you are understanding and accepting and very patient, there are times when it’s hard for me to express myself to you. I know it doesn’t make sense, and I’ve tried to rush myself, but not always to the best results. I need to feel like I am working through things in my own time and way before I approach you with them.
So as we explore more, I’m going to need a lot of time to sift through things. I’m also going to need some semblance of distance between us for a little while. Otherwise it’s too much. Too close, too much vulnerability, too much accommodation.
I thought it might be good for me to keep a journal for the time being. I can write things down here that would be harder for me to say to you in person, and you’re not left in the dark. I don’t know that I’ll always be able to put everything down here, but I’ll try.
Love you